Can we just talk about how problematic Kasey Chambers’ “Not Pretty Enough” is, or is it just me
It’s kind of icky, but no different than the million other “why won’t sempai notice me?” songs out there. At least not to me. What makes it of…
Well, I don’t listen to country music (I wouldn’t have even thought to categorize that as country if you hadn’t said that, goes to show how much I listen to country lol) so I’ve never heard the Rimes song nor the Carey song, actually (apparently I need to update my iTunes lol)
Just because it’s so frequent that we’ve become desensitized to it does not mean that we can’t still talk about it. This song deserves “special mention” simply because I wanted to. Like I said, this song rubbed me the wrong way and is a prime example of things wrong with mainstream pop culture’s reflection of women and their worth. I said before, this is not an attack on Chambers—or Rimes, or Carey, or any other artist for that matter—personally; this is a sociological discourse.
To answer your question, we can talk about the “gazillion other ones that came before it and will come after it.” I can talk about this stuff for days because I’m passionate about it.
I’m a HUGE Kasey Chambers fan and I hate to see this post. Clearly you aren’t getting it, and that’s alright - sometimes I don’t get things either. The song starts out by asking that question all girls ask themselves - “Am I not pretty enough?” It’s a heartbreaking question.
But then the song goes on to list other things that aren’t perfect about her - she cries too loudly, she doesn’t laugh loud enough, she simply isn’t ‘enough’ for the person who the song is sung to.
The song hinges on the last line - “Why do you see right through me?”
And therein is the answer - the person looking at her doesn’t see her at all. Not really. She doesn’t see her beautiful, her muted laugh, her tries…dammit, he doesn’t /see/. S/He only wants pretty, but instead he has strong and damaged.
Am I not pretty enough for you? Then you aren’t really looking. You aren’t seeing all of me.
This song is about seeing (and appreciating) what’s right in front of you, instead always wishing for ‘more’.
Take another listen.
It isn’t my favorite song by her, but it is her most well known here in the states.
(Remember ‘Born in the USA’ by the boss isn’t a patriotic song, it’s a scathing summary of nation’s ills.)